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[IdahoPeg]

On 7/18/2023 at 9:37 AM, delnorter said:

The last information I received as of yesterday on Jim’s condition. The bypass surgery went very well. However, Jim has still not awakened after the operation. It appears a stroke(s) occurred during surgery.

Keep my old friend Jim in your thoughts,

Mike

Any updates on your friend? Hope he’s awake & doing better.

[delnorter]

Jim would be humbled and appreciate the kind and hopeful words from all.

As of yesterday, according to Linda, Jim’s partner, there has been no change in his condition. He remains on a ventilator and has still not awakened.

Mike

[phrunt]

My Dad had a triple bypass a few years ago, we were warned at the time mini strokes are common and sometimes big strokes happen during the surgery, fortunately he had no major stroke but had a number of mini strokes so his memory now isn't quite what it used to be but other than that he's had a full recovery as is in good shape, probably better than he was before the operation.  Fingers crossed for Jim waking up soon and having a full recovery.

[rvpopeye]

C'mon Jim ! You can do it ! 👍

[Jim_Alaska]

 

Jim Foley Update.

Over the last few months before Jim had his surgery - in my grief now - I had forgotten. In Jim's prayers, that I heard, he often dwelled on his home in heaven and distinguished it from his home in heaven and his home on earth. To most people that may not mean anything, but for me, it told a lot. He had never really done that before a few months ago.

Now that he is not waking up, the doctors have their reasons why. His brain is severely damaged by the stroke. If he did wake up it is likely that he wouldn’t be able to see, speak, feed himself, or breathe on his own. He has also developed an infection (Pneumonia) in his lungs. But I think there is an added reason - he doesn't want to wake up. He really has nothing to look forward to, he hated what the neuropathy was doing to him and it was getting worse, to the point that at some point he wouldn't have been able to do anything but sit in his chair and wait to die, which he felt he was already doing.

I really think he was ready to go months ago, long before he knew about his heart problem. Even though he did have great hope that he would recover from his surgery and feel better and have more energy. I also feel he was torn between the desire to die and leaving me a widow. But there is also that he felt trapped in his body.

So I have decided that I will let him die peacefully. I think he has a few more days before he has to have the stomach feeding portal installed. I have told them not to. It will also be at that time I will have them remove his ventilator so he can pass peacefully. There really is no hope he will recover, but even if there was - recover to what? To continue his neuropathy deterioration? I really think he doesn't want that, and is one reason he hasn't woke up.

I am sorry, so very sorry. Not just for me, but for him, his family, and his close friends. I don't know the exact date they will do this, but it will happen soon. I will go and see him one last time tomorrow and say my goodbyes. I cannot bear to watch him die. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. But he would not want to live like this, and I am abiding by his wishes. Please know, my heart goes out to you.

Linda, Jim's wife

[Steve Herschbach]

I'm very sorry you are enduring this Linda. That is indeed the hardest thing anyone can do but you are doing it for love. I'd want my wife to do the same. Jim is a good man who led a good life and none of us can ask for anything more than that. You are in my heart and prayers in this most difficult of times.

Steve Herschbach

[Gold Seeker]

Linda,

My heart goes out to you, your family and friends along with my thoughts and prayers.

I have only known Jim over many years through the many forums we are members of but he became my friend, I will miss him greatly!

Please if you feel the need to "talk" don't hesitate to post on the forum here, we all will give you support as best we can.

[delnorter]

Thank you Linda, you’re doing good on Jim’s behalf. What a fine friend Jim’s has been to me as well as the mining and prospecting community.

Mike

[rvpopeye]

Sounds like a tough but right choice.  deepest sympathy.

[Northeast]

Deepest sympathies Linda.

You are making a tough but loving decision for Jim to be at peace.

Love and support for you and your family in this hard time  💐